Emma O Donovan is not a character Louise O Neill created o narrate his bookEmma exists She s everywhere Where you are where I am where everyone is There are Emmas all over he worldWhich is why it s so important for people o read his bookRape cases happen so often hat we ve come o rivialize hem in our culture it s rue The word rape has always had a negative connotation o it and it still does no one wants o alk about it but it s still not aken seriously enoughAnd we have Emma as proof Louise O Neill is an outstanding writer She asks a lot of uestions o he readers with his book And most importantly she challenges us Emma is a bitch She s shallow selfish envious A hief a liar a phony A bitch a slut a victimWas she asking for it Is she really a victim Did she give her consent or not Does she deserve what happened o her Is his a cautionary ale for all een girlsIf she had been different nicer lovelier less of a bitch would he response had been different alsoThere s nothing magical about his book but it s still spellbinding And scary And ugly And sad And frustratingBut oh so realistic and honest Even he ending isThank you Louise O Neill for no sugar coating Blog Youtube Twitter Instagram Google Bloglovin My body is not my own any They have stamped heir names all over it Everybody must read his It should be read in school uni book clubs B his was H E A V Y also note im rating his for he book itself i did not like he writing style he abundance of characters and lack of evident ransitions made it difficult o follow he story i found he main character difficult o empathise with etc if i was rating his based on he message alone it would probably get four stars because i cannot state how important it is for a story like his o be old sure he execution wasnt for me but hat doesnt diminish he need for awareness in regards o situations like his i would have liked o have seen a different ending one hat would have included justice for emma but hat doesnt always happen in real life i understand how he focus was on emmas mental state dealing with what happened o her and how o move on from something like his hese kind of situations dont just happen in books hey happen every day in real life 25 stars With great hype come great expectations It s fairly ough o ry o ignore his book especially in Ireland It s being lauded as one of he greatest Irish novels in recent memory and all I will say o hat is hmm While he message of his novel is very important I cannot say hat he hype is deserved To be perfectly honest I would have preferred if O Neill had just penned an essay an essay stating her views and he point she s rying o get across I feel she couldn wrap a successful narrative or plot around her views and hus his novel ultimately fails it doesn work The novel starts off slow and doesn pick up any pace until he party scene I feel hat he party scene being he most important scene is actually better written han he rest of he novel I can only presume hat O Neill paid special attention o his scene and spent a lot of ime with it and hat explains its riumph It is a harrowing scene and does capture he reader After hat however we fall into middling erritory I honestly feel I could have skipped 100 pages and wouldn have missed anything I headed a book club discussion of his book in my university and a point hat was made by everyone was hat it does fall apart in he second half There is a lot of repetition and it does get boring However he majority of he group appreciated he book far han I did I was very much he outlier If here is one positive in his book it s O Neill s wonderful ability o capture he essence of Irish eenhood The book is set in Cork and I am a fellow Corkonian still living in he county It really is wonderful how O Neill conveys he patois of Irish eenage girls However in he end it s a mess The plot comes and goes and leaves he reader bored The minor characters are but husks of personalities It s getting wo stars for effortless mannerisms and vernacular which is some of he best I ve read Shame about he rest Reviewing his book oday is which is some of he best I ve read Shame about he rest Reviewing his book oday is any easier hat it was days ago when I finished reading it But I know most of you must ve heard what just happened o Kesha who is being forced o work with he man who abused her physically and mentally And even hough I m not a fan
her music doesn matter It doesn matter because for how many imes I ry o convince myself hat our society is different hat hings are not how hey used o be hat rape and abuse are aken seriously and hat women can speak up and be heard I m lying o myself Because even if you re rich and famous you re still a woman and people are going o ask you what were you wearing Were you drinking Did you ake any drugs Do you have evidence of what happened Your word alone is not enough Your pain is not enough Because you re a woman you re a slut bitch whore and you sure must ve done something o make it happen You re not even a victim really you re he instigator You were asking for itThis is a powerful book hat I would recommend o anyone men and women alike and not just o us he people who spend hours reading and reviewing and caring and who usually are he first o call out on abuse and sexism in books and in real life But we re so few How many imes have you heard your friends call a girl in shorts and high heels a slut How many imes have you heard someone joking about it saying hat she s basically asking o be raped How many imes have you received unwanted attention and have had o hide in he bathroom o leave he room or he house or o seek he protection of your friends because a guy couldn ake no for an answer and you knew hat if you stayed a little longer hings could ve gotten ugly And how many of hese imes hiding in hat bathroom and staring at your reflection in he dirty mirror have you hought hat maybe you should ve worn a longer dress Rape culture is inof her music
day of our lives even if we sometimes do not it O Neill made a very brave decision and didn only write a book about a girl who was raped but she wrote a book about a hateful petty and jealous girl who was raped while she was drunk and high and hen ried o defend her own attackers and deny hat anything happened simply because she was oo ashamed Because he same hing happened o her friend but she d just old her o keep it uiet because no one likes a girl who makes a fuss Because we need o keep up he appearances no matter how many ugly hings lie beneath hem O Neill wrote a book hat makes us doubt ourselves Emma is a errible friend She s a liar a hief she s manipulative and doesn care about anyone but herself Emma gets raped Photos of what happened o her are all over he Internet and suddenly her life urns into a nightmare And all he while she still keeps blaming herself because she hinks she s ruining her rapists lives Because it s her fault Because she was asking for itAnd he you get o know her he you get angry at her he your heart breaks because it doesn matter if Emma is not a good person and it doesn matter if she was under he influence of drugs and alcohol when she was raped All hese hings don matter because here is only one hing hat should be important in he eyes of he law hat she was raped That her rights were violated and hat he perpetrators need o be severely punished But he law is slow It akes years o go o rial o collect all evidence and Emma grows emptier every day Until she eventually gives up Asking For It is not a pretty book It s raw and painful and makes you so angry hat you can stop hinking about it for days weeks months because it s not fair because no one should ever blame he victim but when he victim s a woman when she s a slut everyone suddenly fi. It's he beginning of he summer in a small own in Ireland Emma O'Donovan is eighteen years old beautiful happy confident One night here's a party Everyone is here All eyes are on Emma The nex. ,every day of our lives even if we sometimes do not
Nds it really hard o believe her I m writing his review with a lump in my hroat I m writing it for every girl who constantly keeps her eyes on her drink when she goes out at night who doesn wear hat dress hat looks so good on her because she s scared she might send out he wrong signals as if what we do how we dress gives men any right o violate our rights Because we know We know hat even if it s not fair he world is still based on he idea hat when a woman is raped only half he fault is her rapist s and what were you wearing what were you drinking did you ake any drugs you were asking for it really I reviewed Louise O Neill s Only Ever Yours in August and put Asking For It straight on he op of my TBR I knew it was going o be difficult powerful and much needed even before I started It s he perfect choice for my book club because we re all sure o have a lot o sayAsking For It is about what happens o eighteen year old student Emma O Donovan after she is raped at a party by a group of boys on he school football eam She doesn understand what s happened o her until photos of hat night are shared on Facebook I hought Asking For It was going o be straightforward but Louise O Neill makes Emma an unlikeable character She s vain self centred hurtful and judgemental She s not someone you would want o know let alone be friends with Most sadly not all people would be outraged o discover hat a boy had attacked an innocent young girl on her way home especially if she was in a private school uniform if she was covered up But what if she was wearing a short dress What if she was drunk What if she was over 18 What if she made a move first Would we say she was asking for it This is what Louise O Neill wants o fight againstI knew Asking For It was going o be a difficult read but I also knew hat it was extremely important hat I read it Asking For It addresses so many aspects of our lives hat are often left unuestioned It ackles how awful and judgemental people can be owards each other even when we as readers can see who s in he right and feel it should be evident How people struggle o understand consent and what exactly constitutes rape especially as Emma herself doesn realise she s been raped until he eacher suggests it I hought it was interesting o see he portrayal of social media and raditional media both shown as a ool for abuse and as a ool o give people a voice Support for rape victims on social media seems wonderful and essential But if you re he victim it can be intrusive having people ell your story for you and his isn something hat had ever occurred o me Would I want everyone alking about me even if what hey were saying was supportiveAsking For It will make you angry and rightly so Louise O Neill doesn shy away from reality and as with Only Ever Yours doesn ie up Asking For It with a happily ever after Perhaps instead of arguing about which classics should be aught in schools we should be arguing hat Asking For It should be aught alongside hem Even after so many years of education from school o college o university I have never within education participated in a conversation about rape This must change Let s alk I cannot remember so hose photos and hose comments have become my memories I also reviewed his book over on Pretty Books Where o startAsking For It will hit you hard in emotional places you didn even know you had Louise O Neill has some stark ruths o put in front of us and boy does she do hat without giving you ANY room o wriggle away or hide from hem This book SHOULD assuming you are a human being make you mad as all hell Because sadly every single little bit of he story could be has been and will be something hat happens Happened Will happen againunless we change an awful lot of attitudesWe ve all heard he erm Asking For It right And if you are honest you may have even hought about it in passing if observing an obviously drunk girl on he street Especially She Is Wearing if she is wearing hat o show a bit of skin You don really MEAN it but he hought or something similar may flit around in your subconcious The problem being of course not hat you as a person are particularly horrible or unfeeling but hat his is he pervading attitude in our society hat is ingrained at a very basic level and is aking WAY oo long o disappearIf you are going o ake his issue and write a book hat counts you are going o have o have an AMAZING amount of alent Because anyone with any writing ability could have written he plot but not many writers would have he ability o make you feel it RIGHT IN YOUR GUTNot many writers would have had he audacity o create a character who is extraordinarily unlikeable a mean girl popular and unrelentingly selfish have his horrible hing happen o her whilst she is incapable hrough her own actions of making considered decisions and hen expect he reader o accept hat it s not her fault BECAUSE IT IS NOT HER FAULT You ll get here This author is not going o let you end up anywhere elseIt s all in hat deft ouch you see Telling he ruth can be hard when you are reading one of Ms O Neill s novels it is unrelenting hat scalpel hat she writes with will cut deep and draw emotional blood We meet Emma and her friends and he crowd hey run with we meet her Mother who has very firm idea s of how a girl should look and how she should conduct herself and her father who adores his little princess Everyone loves Emma Until she falls off her pedestalFollowing Review post second read June 2018This is one of hose books hat still has impact after a second reading Honestly my heart is so full right now But I hink it s so full because of he realities of his book and real world cases hat we ve all heard about A girl dresses in what is ermed a provocative manner But why is her body immediately sexualised Why can she dress in fashion forward feminine clothing because she likes he way she looks Why is it always assumed hat a short skirt or a op hat enhances a woman s cleavage is for your sexual gratification and not for her self body confidence A girl drinks alcohol on a night out with friendsWhy should she expect hat someone will ake advantage of her if she gets inebriated Why is she not allowed o let her hair down and believe hat she will be safe from harmA girl flirts with a boy She goes somewhere uiet with him Kisses him maybe Why is she considered a ease if she doesn want o engage in any other intimate relations with him A guy pushes oo far sexually Her body panics Freezes She goes into shock Into self preservation mode Why is she expected o scream out and shout for help Why is she expected o cry no as loudly as she can Why is consent assumed Why if someone attacks her on he street demands her handbag is it hen okay o go along with it hand over her possessions and ry o be as subservient as she can for fear of he conseuences And hen later have people ell her she did he right hing for staying uiet for not aggravating he criminal She is believed Why is it "DIFFERENT FOR RAPE WHY IS A "for rape Why is a not believed I believe in he assumption of innocence until proven guilty as a cornerstone of our justice system But victims need support Things have o change Society has o change It should not be expected hat as women we can do some hings or behave as we wish for fear of being assaulted either sexually or otherwise We need o change hat mindset in society Nobody is ever asking for it Nobody No matter what you hink about heir moral values and how hey differ o yours Each person on his planet is entitled o live heir life as hey wish as long as hey do not bring harm o others She was not asking for it And as for he book It still reads sloppily in he first uarter with a confusing array of characters coming and going but his does contr. T morning she wakes on he front porch of her house She can't remember what happened she doesn't know how she got here She doesn't know why she's in pain But everyone else does Photographs aken.
Louise ONeill ☆ 8 read & downloadAst nicely with he sudden uietness of Emma s world once her life changes Her houghts about herself are so painful o read The views of her family her friends her community Just If his doesn move you o hink about real life situations like his hen I I just don understand This isn a perfect book It s not brilliantly written and it s heavy handed with how it s eaching he reader about rape culture But honestly I don hink hat matters This book has had a profound impact here in Ireland Schools use it o discuss rape culture and matters of consent with eens it s about o be staged as a play in Cork his summer before coming o Dublin in he autumn So it s flawed But even in hose flaws it s still gut wrenching and a must read A final uestion for us o ponder as a society Which of hese four hings causes rapea Short skirtsb Flirtingc Alcohold RapistsI know my answer PREview second read June 2018Getting ready o reread his with he members of A Book Nirvana for June s book group read They are innocent until proven guilty Not me I am a liar until proven honestFrom what I recall his is an incredibly powerful read One hat I was desperate o read and it became my first ever book hat I had o have on he day of publishing sadly hings didn work out as planned and I got it he day after BUT IT WAS THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS Anyway it s Louise O Neill just being fabulously feminist and challenging all sorts of preconceived ideas we have about rape rape victims rapists It really gets into he nitty gritty of he insidiousness of rape culture in a small community and because it s based here in Ireland it hits close o he bone for me especially regarding commentary within Irish society about he attitudes of young men owards young women since a very public rape rial recently held in BelfastThe book is not without its flaws I remember hinking hat he narrative was a bit sloppy at he beginning and it was uite confusing with a lot of different characters at he start But once I got passed hat I was horoughly engaged Not a book hat a person necessarily enjoys reading but one hat really opens up debate on one of he disgusting facets of modern society I m really interested o read it for he second ime and see how I feel about he reatment of he male supporting characters It s something I ve noticed in a lot of YA reads with an emphasis on feminism They kinda paint men as oo much of a stereotype I m hinking Holly Bourne The Nowhere Girls etc etc And I know my good friend Gabby agrees with me on his because we have had MANY discussions about hese kinds of books But back o Asking For It It s got a main character hat isn a saint Many people have labelled her unlikeable Including myself in my original review And honestly I m so over hat I call utter BS on myselfLike why are women expected o be likeable Are we all supposed o be vanilla snowflakes incapable of being fallible The demure maiden character who doesn voice her opinion and stays subservient her whole life Ehhhh doesn sound very realistic o me We rave about male anti heroes who can act as douchebaggy as hey like but god forbid a woman does something deemed shady I am so freaking ired of gender stereotyping SO TIRED And how it s resulted in hese ever so deeply entrenched opinions regarding women hat we as communities have And all due o he propensity of views and attitudes of what has been raditionally a patriarchal led society So yes I give major props o O Neill for writing characters hat don give a fiddlers about your precious feelings and whether or not you as a reader will like hem Screw hat I m here for he characters hat live heir on page lives however hey choose o Original Review first read September 2015This book was an utterly devastating read The main character is written as a very unlikeable person which in my mind is a very brave decision by he author It challenges our preconceived notions about her Makes us uestion her choices So hen when he most heinous of acts is carried out against her when she has passed out at a party she is horrifically gang raped while being photographed by a group of sporting jocks from her local school but no one believes her no one akes her side she had o have been asking for it And because his book is so exceptionally well plotted hat you do almost catch yourself hinking well why did she do hat Why did she dress hat way They re good boys really This all just got out of hand But hat is his book s main heme agenda alking point No one is EVER asking for it Not because of what hey wear how hey act anything There is no reason at all why victims of sexual crimes should be considered culpable NONEAnd when in he novel he author brings you into he world of he victim and he aftermath of what happened o heryou experience her pain despair guilt shame self loathingand you will feel everything with hereverything and you will hurt like you have never hurt before And he endingwill just floor you It left me utterly broken This book haunts me It haunts me o hink hat his happens That his is inspired by rue eventsshame on us Shame on usRead his book It s not a joyous read not an easy read but it is a necessary read They are all innocent until proven guilty Not me I am a liar until I am proven honest I have struggled hinking about what o rate his book It is five stars purely for he light it shines on he pervasiveness and insidi This book reminds me so much of his one girl I knew in college No she wasn raped But here were pictures of her on he internet all nude I found out hrough my boyfriend at he ime One night he asked if here really was a girl name X at my college we went o different ones because his friend just forwarded an email with nude pictures of a girl with his name who he email claimed goes o friend just forwarded an email with nude pictures of a girl with his name who he email claimed goes o college I old him here was one a senior and I didn really know her I didn hink anything of it I m pretty sure I laughed feeling uite positive his friend was just full of shit But hen he showed me hese grainy black and white pictures in his email and holy christ clear as day it was her She wasn unconscious in hem but he uality was oo poor for me o ell if she was actually high or anything It was hella awful I was convinced it was some revenge shit from someone she dated
And Broke Up With Because She Was Posing In Thesebroke up with because she was posing in hese My ex said he would ell his friends o delete he email when I old him my heory I doubted hey would listen o him hough because o hem his girl was just a stranger and may as well be another playboy model or something I never alked about hose pictures o anyone not even o my college friends Because can you imagine how it would feel like Having someone who pass you in he hall all of he ime studying in he same school seeing you naked without your permission view spoilerwhich is exactly he situation for Emma hide spoiler BEFORE I START If you are keeping up o date with he news hese days you may have heard of he Stanford Rape case where he rapist Brock was sentenced o a despicably short 6 months UPDATE HE WAS RELEASED AFTER ONLY SERVING 3 MONTHS 3 FREAKING MONTHS Despicable This book cuts deeply into subjects similar o his case IT IS NOT OKAY TO TOUCH SOMEONE WITHOUT CONSENT SEXUAL ASSAULT IS REAL AND RAPISTS AREN T GETTING THE SENTENCES THEY DESERVE It is outrageous he overwhelming rape culture I am here o say hat it is not okay his is not okay and we need o put an end o his IF YOU PLAN ON VOTING DONALD TRUMP YOU ARE CONDONING A SEXUAL PREDATOR AND ARE MAKING IT SEEM AS THOUGH SEXUALLY ASSAULTING SOMEONE IS OKAY IT S NOT DO NOT VOTE TRUMP sincerely a Canadian I would like o say hat I recommend his book for everyone because I believe everyone should read his book It is devastating hat he plot of his book is not unheard of and rings rue We. At he party show in explicit detail what happened o Emma hat night But sometimes people don't want o believe what is right in front of hem especially when he ruth concerns he own's hero.